Some time ago, I watched a short clip of a young man sharing a story about his close friend who tragically lost his life after running into a moving train, a heartbreaking consequence of depression. It pricked my heart deeply. This guy had hidden his pain so well that even his best friend had no idea what he was going through. As I listened to his story, I couldn’t help but wonder: How many people around me are hiding their struggles, wearing masks of happiness, and silently suffering? How many friends, family members, or colleagues are crying out for help, but their voices are muffled by the noise of our busy lives? This young man’s story broke me. It made me realize how fragile life is.
I came across a term in a book recently —life stance, what does it mean?
Life stance refers to the set of attitudes, assumptions, and expectations people hold about themselves, others, and the world in general. It’s how we see life, how we interpret challenges, and how we decide to move forward. Our life stance shapes our responses to life’s ups and downs, coloring our reactions with hope, resilience, or despair.
Life stance forms the foundation from which we choose to face life’s unpredictable moments, whether with faith, courage, or fear.
The truth is, as long as we live on this planet, we will face moments we neither expect nor bargain for:
- No one plans to seek admission for years without success – but it happens.
- No one dreams of graduating from university only to earn a meagre salary – but it happens.
- No one plans to experience trauma like rape – but it happens.
- No one wishes for a delayed marriage – but it happens.
- No one wants a failed marriage or divorce – but it happens.
- No one prays for a delay in childbearing – but it happens.
- No one plans for terminal illness – but it happens.
Yes, even faithful children of God face unimaginable challenges.
This is to remind you that no matter what you’re going through, someone, somewhere, has faced a similar situation. And believe me, many have grown beyond the experience… and are thriving. They do not look like what they have been through. You’re not alone in your pain.
We truly can’t control everything that happens to us. But we do have the power to choose how we respond, grow, and learn from our experiences. Moreover, through prayer and wise counsel, we can gain the wisdom and guidance needed to navigate future challenges and avoid similar pitfalls.
Here’s a truth you must always remember: Crying, regret, and brooding won’t fix any problem. If they could, they’d be listed as solutions. Instead, they often perpetuate a cycle of pain.
So, what can we do? We can redirect our energy from regret to rebuilding our future. We can’t change the past, but we can learn from it and use those lessons to create a better tomorrow. Let’s rise above our challenges and find a way to heal, grow, and thrive.
As John Maxwell says,
“Having a positive life stance makes the good and bad experiences better, while having a negative life stance makes the good and bad experiences worse.” Ultimately, the choice is yours.
Today, I encourage you to trust and depend on God for His best at all times.
Now say with me:
I expect God’s best at all times, and no matter what comes my way, I stand on this truth: God is good, and there is no evil in Him. I repeat: No evil is found in God!
So, I choose a positive life stance.
If you feel like no one cares or loves you, let me assure you—you are not alone. I do, and God loves you even more.
Rooting for you, always!
